The Great Balancing Act: Achieving Balance

Jenn Marie Maxwell

Our weekend – Recipes Included!

Our weekend really began Thursday night because I had most of Friday off.  It was a pretty standard weekend for us.  One of the most exciting things was that Mariah (19 months old) used the potty – TWICE!

We kicked it off right with some Panda Express for dinner and then coloring & playing with Mariah until bedtime. After she went to bed, Kevin and I caught up on our favorite show, Nashville. That show is seriously the best! Then we talked about LinkedIn and making more connections on it while we watched the news before turning in for the night. Check out my LinkedIn – I would love to connect with ya’ll!


Mornings for this mama begin at 0510.  I start with some coffee makin’ and Kailee kitty lovin’ as she greets me good morning. Then I grab my bible and journal to get my mind and heart straight before anything else. Today, the small-group study went over Galatians 6:9 and asked, “In what ways in your life do you feel weary?  In prayer bring them to God.” Well…It did not take me long to compile this list but it take me a little longer to bring each and every item on my list to God.  What a relief to begin my day with Letting Go!

Sweet Mariah woke up at 0600 which is about 45 minutes earlier than normal so we made smoothies, poured her juice, and caught up on some Minnie Mouse as we cuddled on the couch.  She loves when we both have “juice” even if mine is coffee she says, “Mama’s juice and Mariah’s juice.”  We hold hands and cuddle the morning away until I have to log in to get some work done.

Smoothie Recipe:

*Note – I use a regular blender.  You don’t need anything fancy to make these

1/4 cup of reduced fat vanilla Greek yogurt (Great Value has an awesome one – I always use this one b/c of the vanilla flavoring)

1/4 cup of orange juice

six frozen strawberries

2 fresh strawberries

1 ripe banana

We met my dad for lunch at Chili’s. It was so cute to watch him draw pictures for Mariah. They are seriously two peas in a pod!

After lunch, we went to the outdoor mall, starting at Scheel’s. Mariah loved seeing the fish, running around, and playing with all of the sports equipment. It was a wonderful afternoon spent out in our unbelievably warm weather!

Mariah 1

Mariah 2

Mariah 5

Mariah 4

We spent the rest of the evening at home and I made lasagna.

Here’s my recipe. It’s seriously so easy and good!


1 Box of Barilla No-Boil Lasagna Noodles

1 Egg

1 (15 ounce) container of low-fat ricotta cheese

2 cups of shredded mozzarella cheese

1 lb of ground turkey, cooked

1.5 jars of spaghetti sauce (We like it saucy)

Preheat oven to 375

Combine egg and ricotta

Combine sauce and cooked meat

Use a 13×9 pan (I use glass)

– put a small layer of meat/sauce on the bottom of the pan

– Begin layering your lasagna ~ noodles, meat, ricotta, and sprinkle cheese.  Repeat until top layer.

On the top layer I do cheese and any leftover sauce (sometimes the other 1/2 of the 2nd jar – saucy, I told you)!

Then get your foil out and spray the side that will touch the cheese with non-stick spray.

Cover and cook for 30 minutes

After 30 minutes, un-cover and cook for 10 minutes (or until cheese looks done).

Let cool

*I cut my lasagna before it is cooled. It is a lot easier to cut and then serve.


The morning was pretty slow and easy. I decided to sleep in a little bit (well mostly because my husband mentioned that my alarm kept going off and I obviously was not hearing it) we were up at 0630 with Mariah and went through the normal routine. We stayed in our jammies a little too long for any day other than a Saturday.

Here’s the smoothie recipe that I made today: 

1/4 cup of reduced fat vanilla Greek yogurt

1.5 cups of mixed frozen fruit – strawberries & peaches

1/2 of a ripe banana

1/2 cup of orange juice

During Mariah’s nap I went to a new bible study group and met some wonderful ladies!  We talked a lot about wanting to be a Mary and not a Martha.  I know after I had Mariah, I was obsessed with the details of the home. I wanted everything to remain clean and perfect.  What I really should have done is let go of some of that and just enjoy those special moments with her…Including some extra cuddles and naps!

When I got home, we went out to lunch at our favorite sandwich place, Port of Subs … Gonna insert a story here…

I love port of subs so much and during my pregnancy missed it dearly (thanks no cold deli meat rule) throughout my pregnancy I said as soon as the baby is born j just want a giant Port of subs sandwich… Well, we left the hospital and headed straight for lunch. The first place Mariah went after the hospital was Port of Subs. And then we went home to enjoy our new baby and some delish lunch

Back to Saturday… After lunch we went to Petsmart to look at all the animals and then the bookstore. Mariah loves books so much. I’m so grateful for that. She loved being able to run around the store and point stuff out to me. It was just a nice and quiet afternoon.

We had leftover lasagna for dinner.


After a great service at church we went home and did laundry and rested.  We did very “typical” Sunday things like meal planning (I will write a blog about this soon), grocery shopping, and some nice resting and movie-watching.  For dinner I made a great recipe that I found a couple years ago on Pinterest.

Sunday Dinner

All in all it was a great and very relaxing weekend – but then again – how could we NOT enjoy a weekend with such fantastic weather, bible time, and yummy food?!

How was your weekend and what are your plans for the next one?

Also, feel free to comment below if you have any questions about my recipes or have other ones to share!

I hope you have a great week and thanks for stopping by!


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Growth as a Pinner


I will never forget the day that I got the elusive Pinterest Invitation from one of my girlfriends. She had been raving about Pinterest for months before I text her with my main question, “What is pinning and why do you do it?” Her response basically was that it was a ton of fun and they have everything on it – recipes, dream house pictures, hair stuff…Wait…Did you say recipes? I’m sold. Let me in. I was pounding at the Pinterest door.

A couple years later, here I am…A pinning machine. Sure, I go through times of non-pinning. I don’t know why, just do. But here I am looking at my awesome main page where I have 77 boards. Yes, 77. I have 5,026 pins, 4,986 likes, and 159 followers. The most followers I have on anything.

Today, as I look at all 77 of my boards (I really think I need to organize them better) I wonder what the heck am I planning to do with all this stuff. I will say in my own defense that I do have 2 boards – a public one called, “what I have done or made from my pins” (yes, I’m pretty creative with my board names…I have one called Slow n Easy for my slow cooker recipes – It still makes me giggle) and then I have another private board creatively titled, “to do.” In the public board I have actually done 7 things. I think I have done more from my pins but forgot to document them. I will say, out of these 7 things, 4 of them are still being done or consistently made and absolutely loved by my family and one of them I’m actually making tonight.

In my to-do list, I have 19 things that I actually can’t wait to do once I get the time, money, energy…You know, any of the excuses that I typically have.

The main point of this is that I started to ask myself today, why do I pin? At the beginning of my pinning experience, I feel as though I was creating this dream world – kind of like when I used to pick out all of the things I would buy from the JcPenny catalog if I won the lottery; creating my dream home (Yes, I’m old -we actually used to get the catalog every year and it.was.exciting).

After I had my baby, I started using it for baby food recipes, advice, ideas for her birthday party, ways to organize our tiny apartment, and of course, how to look awesome in all of the clothes that I can’t afford. But when I really look at my boards, I see that I’m using it for cooking. I love new recipes and cooking with my family. My step-daughter and husband are very encouraging of new recipes as well.

So what do I do with these 77 boards now that I am a “matured” pinner? Do I delete boards I never look at? I’m not sure I’m there yet…maybe I am…Maybe I will publish this post and take them down about 1/2…I’m nervous. That was a lot of time spent sifting through pins…Oh goodness, now I’m just short of breath. Are you as attached to your pins as I seem to be?

I would love to share ideas with each other on Pinterest – You can find me HERE

So what do you use Pinterest for and why? Have you also grown as a “pinner?”

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Perfectly Imperfect

Time for the confession.

When I started this blog I wanted to inspire others to live happy and balanced lives but I came at it with this, “I have it figured out, follow me and we can be rock stars together” approach.  If I have learned anything since having my daughter in August 2013, it has been that of humility.  I have made friends and had experiences since having her that have humbled me into not only accepting my imperfections but embracing them; taking them by their seemingly devilish horns and uncovering the beauty and blessings that are underneath it all – kind of like polishing a tarnished penny.  Have you ever seen a gross-looking penny, staring at you from the ground?  Laying there completely untouchable in its gross-looking-ness but then you see a shiny penny on the street and you become kind of excited to find such a glorious blessing laying on the ground…

The purpose of my blog IS to indeed inspire us to come together as a community where we thrive together and live happy and balanced lives- but how much more meaningful and rewarding to do it by being real and humble about our lives.  We can’t grow or learn anything new if we can’t throw everything onto the table.

On March 2, 2015 my amazing friend Breanna and I flooded Instagram with random pictures throughout our Monday (#thebeautyintoday).  Breanna is a stay-at-home mom, home educator (un-schooler), mother of a teenager, an 8-year old, AND a toddler, AND if she could not be anymore amazing – the owner and creater of HiveVibes.  Go check her out HERE

Anyways, our original plan was to compare our days and debunk some myths about working moms and stay-at-home moms.  Honestly, I knew it would reveal that I get a lot more personal time and am not half as busy as she is.  But what ended up being revealed was something that I didn’t anticipate; how beautiful our messy and imperfect days are.  I loved getting to see her making quesadillas for the lunch because I wanted nothing more than to grab Mariah and run over to her house and join her and the boys for lunch, rather than eating my PB&J that I packed.  I loved getting to see her family flourish throughout the day-and they weren’t perfectly staged pictures with just the right filter; they were real. I posted my realness too and I look back at those pictures and am proud to have my messy apartment and my toddler with boogers on her face, imperfectly displayed for everyone to see. I love my messy place (not my apartment, but hey…) I LOVE my toddler – boogers and all. I love LIFE and I love to share and learn from others, like Breanna.

The realness of our lives IS what is inspiring and encourages the most growth.  So … It’s about to get real, real up in this Mommy blog.

So here I am, throwing all my laundry on the table (yup, I actually do that at home too).  I have a love and passion for growth – spiritually, as a wife and a mom, as a friend, at work…I want to learn and grow in these areas of my life and what I want more than anything is for ya’ll to do it with me.  We can work with each other, bounce ideas off of each other, and send love and encouragement when someone needs it.

So I want to know your thoughts, feelings – anything you are having at this point.  Any suggestions for future blogs are always welcome too.

Thank you for taking time out of your day to share in this journey with me.  I appreciate it more than you will ever know.

Here’s a glimpse of my Monday – for more, find me on Instagram at JennMarie3313

Jenns Day 1

Jenns Day 2


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New Roles, Ideas, and Goals

What a WHIRLWIND the last couple of months have been!!! But I’m back, with a baby and a whole new set of goals and ideas to share! So let’s catch up, shall we?

August 2nd (after 3 days of labor…I have earned my labor patch for mommy-hood) we welcomed our beautiful baby girl to the world. Thinking about that day gives me instant goose bumps. It was truly amazing to finally get to hold my little girl.
My husband was beyond amazing through the entire experience. Note: Anyone who is crafty out there and wants to make big bucks – There is a market for comfortable daddy “cots” in hospitals. Daddy’s also need comfort and rest in Labor & Delivery…Just Sayin’

Our little girl is quickly approaching 6 months old and every day just seems to get better and more exciting.

Things I didn’t realize until having a baby:

•Everyone tells you that you won’t sleep…Ummm…You Don’t. You don’t sleep and when you do sleep, it’s not very well or plentiful. It DOES get better though.

•Keeping your marriage alive is straight hard but worth it. Dates are important, even if it is to a quick dinner…Even if you bring baby to dinner…Talk about something other than what’s going on with the baby.

•You literally have to find yourself again – as a woman, employee, and spouse. Everything is different; body and mind. I’m still on this path but feeling more “complete” every single day.

•Your house will be messy, unorganized, and sometimes…A little gross. I won’t lie. I have woken up and realized I slept the entire night with a burp rag on my shoulder. That moment when you realize,

What are some things that you have experienced that you didn’t expect?

My degree is in full-swing now as I just began my last year of my undergraduate degree in Human Resource Management. I am already looking into what graduate programs I am interested in and am excited to begin my career! Look out world; I’m heading your way!

I have a whole new perspective on management and organization for the office and the home so stay tuned – We are in this Great Balancing Act together. I’m back and it’s going to be better than EVER.

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The Ultimate Organizational Project: Getting Ready for Baby

Upon seeing the “two pink lines” and celebrating with my husband (after a brief hyperventilation moment of … this is REALLY happening) my mind was immediately swarmed with how to even begin planning for our new arrival. Looking at the calendar, I didn’t even know when to actually begin getting organized and prepared.

Being that this is my first baby, I had no clue where to begin. I had never thought about buying bottles, baby blankets, or waterproof pads for cribs. So that’s when I jumped on what I call, The Google. Gotta love Google! The first thing I found was astonishing and kind of scary. It was an article that told me that baby’s go through 10-12 diapers a day – Wait…What?!?! I then found a diaper buying guide for pregnancy in order to build up my diaper stock a little bit at a time throughout the months. Here’s the site that I used for this called, Stocking up on Diapers: How much to Buy & At What Price. It has a great guide to learning what to expect from common stores. Note, now’s the time to really look through all the coupon books that you get in the mail and even the ones you get from some doctor’s offices during your prenatal care. I kept these in my glove box so I would always have them when I was out and about.

Next thing to think about is baby essentials and what to register for. My husband and I downloaded a couple lists such as, this one.. We went through the list and our budget to decide what we would plan to buy and what we wanted to register for. It gave me a great perspective as to what to register for and was helpful to take with us while registering because it was broken down into categories. I will also say that Babies “R” Us gave us an awesome registering guide if you want something concrete from a store that you will be using. You can find lists of items about anything from what to pack in the hospital bag for yourself, dad, and baby to what to put in the diaper bag. I had my bag packed by my 8 month mark and I also now have a fully stocked diaper bag that includes hand sanitizer and even a cute little trash bag dispenser…I feel more prepared everyday!

Now…Where to put everything? Here’s a great blog post about this called, How to Organize for Baby. If it weren’t for this blog post, I probably would have neatly stored my bottles in the nursery. Silly, I know, but I seriously had no clue what to do! There are tons of great online resources to help you figure out not only what you need but where to put it all.

After my baby shower, I took note of everything that I received and crossed it off of my list so that I could see what else I still needed and since the shower I have been purchasing a couple items a week in order to alleviate spending too much money at one given time. We were so completely blessed that our list of remaining items was very short!

The way I see it, the more you can get organized during your pregnancy the more time you will have to connect with your beautiful bundle of joy when they arrive. The last thing you want to be thinking about is acquiring essential items at the moment you need them. There are so many available resources between the internet and the bookstore, stock up and get going because as I’ve learned, 9 months goes by VERY quickly!

If you know of any good tips or baby organizing ideas please comment below. Happy Organizing!


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Smart Mommy uses her Smart Phone

My grandma used calendars and notebooks to keep track of her family, as did my mom. But me…I use my smartphone for everything, especially keeping track of my busy life and my family. It’s pretty common for most of us that our smartphones are typically within an arms reach at any moment – even on our nightstands while we sleep. I don’t know if you are like me but without my phone I feel as though I would be completely lost. It’s not just a great organizational tool but also a great balancing tool with what seems like limitless capabilities at my fingertips all.the.time. If you need something, there’s most likely an app for it.

Here’s what I have been using mine for a lot lately:

Cooking – When coming up with the current week’s meals I frequent apps like Pinterest, Better Homes and Gardens, and Allrecipes. Now, more than ever, you see people shopping at the store with their phones or tablets sitting in the front of their cart (I love seeing the kids in the seat looking at the phone and checking things off the grocery list – so cute!!!) I have even been at the store with cooking block – what the heck am I going to make tonight – and have found a recipe while standing in an aisle. I have also used my phone to bring up the recipe in the kitchen and refer to that instead of printing it. Do they make stands for these in the kitchen yet?

Banking & Budget – There are great apps for banking and paying bills. I frequently access our bank accounts using the apps, pay my bills, and keep my check register on an app. Keeping updated on how much money is coming in and going out is essential to balance. It’s fast and easy, who can complain about that?

Card Star – The app that forever changed my key chain. I hated…really hated having so many of those darn cards taking over my key chain. I even tried to keep a separate ring in my purse just for these things. But now I don’t have too! Card Star keeps all of your loyalty cards in one awesome place that ISN’T intrusive to the key ring. With the touch of a finger, you can access all of your loyalty cards. It also offers discounts and coupons to your favorite places. Awwww….Loyalty card relief!

Yelp – Looking for a new restaurant for date night? Or a family-friendly establishment? I use this app more and more everyday to find what I’m looking for. I have found car washes, stores, and have even perused the app to see what’s around me. It’s great to read reviews and see the menu before even stepping foot into a place.

These are just the apps that I am currently frequenting but if you search online there are lists upon lists of useful apps.
Here’s two great lists – Best Paid and Free iPhone Apps for Moms & 25 Best Apps for Working Moms .

Now that I’m about to have a baby I’m sure there will be even more apps that I will find and use. Know any good ones?

Leave me a comment and tell me how your smartphone has become integrated into your life as a mom?


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Mommy Management Skills

As a Management student at the University of Nevada, Reno I was thinking today about what management and leadership skills that I might use at home. Then I realized, tons! Running a household is no easy task. There’s a lot to get done and not a lot of time to do it.

Here are some skills that moms use on a daily basis:

1. Time Management – I know there are many days where I am the first to rise and the last to go to sleep. I know when/where each member of my family has to be for the day and everything that needs to get done. Somehow and someway moms manage to fit all of the crazy schedules and tasks into each day. Moms prioritize their time, set schedules, and adhere to deadlines.

2. Project Management – School functions and family functions don’t just happen. They are intricate projects that require extensive planning and management. Moms have this amazing ability to look at the whole picture and break all of the aspects down into tasks. This week my family planned a last minute trip to beautiful Lake Tahoe for the 4th of July. I had to think about just as much for our trip as I do for a project at work! Making lists, planning shopping trips, mileage, packing efficiently, activities to do throughout the day…This was a project!

3. Communication Skills – Moms can go from talking to a 2 year-old and without skipping a beat jump into a complex conversation with an adult. They know the value of clear instructions and utilize various forms of communication every single day – writing an email about an event you are planning, texting with the husband about dinner, jumping on Skype with the grandparents, and calling around town to schedule an appointment…And all of this in one day!

4. Training – I’m very familiar with this right now as my older children are learning more skills within the home regarding cleaning and home maintenance. I have trained them, provided check-lists of items that need to be done, and do a little quality assurance inspection at the end of the day. Everyday moms provide instructions, guidance, and teaching to their families. I can’t wait to teach my daughter how to swim, only because I remember my mom with me in the pool for what seemed like hours to teach me. Her patience, clear instructions, and guidance are something that I use when training employees and even my family.

5. Problem Solving – Let’s face it, things happen and almost always unexpected. The washer quit working, a child sprains an ankle, new brakes are needed on the car, or the kids are fighting. Moms are always there to solve whatever problems or issues that arise. They don’t skip a beat and just jump right on in!


So pat yourself on the back moms! You have some amazing skills that you use every single day and may not even notice it. You maintain households, plan events, keep the peace in the home, and maintain all types of relationships! Here’s even more skills that you use everyday as a “Mompreneur.”

What other skills do you use as a mom that could be used professionally?



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Tick-Tock – Running Late Again?

Everyone has a different perception of time and we become known for it accordingly. We all have friends, family, and co-workers who are either chronically late or early and then a few stragglers who are in the middle of that. It can be frustrating either way. You go to meet a friend for lunch and they show up 30 minutes early asking where you are or you show up on time and your friend is 30 minutes late; usually without even sending a courtesy text or calling.

If you are someone who, or someone you know is chronically late the first step to recovery is admitting that it is a problem. Not only does it cause other’s stress but I can almost guarantee that it causes you even more stress. Being late for personal events is one thing, being late for work consistently is a whole other ballpark. You might think that people don’t notice…They do. Someone always notices when you’re slipping in through the office doors, probably because they have walked by your cubicle or office a couple times that morning already – depending on how late you actually are. In an article titled, 5 Reasons Why You’re Always Late … And Why You Won’t Be Anymore it reports that being excessively tardy is the most irritating of work habits to have. This is a great article because it covers why people tend to run late. Their reasons are:
1. Being too wrapped up in the present & spacing out other commitments.
2. Miscalculating how much time is actually needed for tasks or getting somewhere.
3. Failing to plan. Waking up late and/or not giving yourself enough time to get ready.
4. Overbooking. Saying yes to every meeting or every event and then struggling to maintain all your commitments.
5. Being addicted to the rush. You adrenaline junkie, you.

Understanding why you are consistently late is key to recovery. It could be one of the previously stated items or it could be all of them. Regardless of how many, it is important to address and overcome them. Most people who are consistently tardy are not very proud of it. It’s embarrassing and stressful. Have you ever told yourself, “I’m not going to let this happen again…Tomorrow will be different” and then the next day you’re late for work?…Again? It can happen to the best of us. But hey, don’t get down on yourself – get better! Lucky for you there are some great resources out there to help with your recovery.

In an article titled, How to stop being late and start being on time some great tips to be on time are given.
Two great ones are:
1. Take actual measurements of how long things take you.
In my case, I know that it takes me 40 minutes to get ready for work, 20 minutes to eat breakfast and watch a little news, and 40 minutes to drive to work (on a good day). I also know that I am a snooze button pusher so I give myself another 20 minute buffer to roll outta bed.
2. Set an alarm. Not just to get up in the morning but for other tasks.
Some people just need constant reminders of what’s coming up in their day. Smart phones can be a great help with this as you can have as many as alarms and reminders that you want. The iPhone can even set reminders for locations. Many times I have set a reminder for when I leave work to remind me to get items for dinner or to pay a bill.

Tardiness is something that anyone can overcome with admittance, understanding, and effort to recover.

So I ask, Has anyone overcome the tardiness bug? If so, how did you do it?


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Multitasking. Is it Worth it?


I have always prided myself in being an effective “multi-tasker.” I even have it on my résumé to impress anyone out there with my mad multitasking skills. Here’s the definition of multi-tasking. Basically, the performance of many tasks at one time. I have seen on job boards their desire for multitaskers and I have tried so very hard to make this a prime skill of mine.
At work, I can handle many tasks – I can answer the phone while doing a budget report and I can talk to co-workers about a topic or question while emailing a client.

But personally – being a mother, wife, and student I believe I have taken it too far and it has ended up hurting me more than helping me. I can’t do homework AND spend time with my step-kids, nor can I cook dinner while figuring out the next week’s schedule. Sometimes we just have to buckle down and do one task at a time (at work and in our personal lives).

New research actually shows that multitaskers might be doing more tasks at one time but also getting less done at the same time. A great article on Forbes called, How Multitasking Hurts Your Brain (and Your Effectiveness at Work) talks about how it has been scientifically proven that our brains cannot efficiently switch between tasks.

What?!? But I thought I was so darn good at this…In light of this I have attempted to do some “light” multitasking. Answering emails and phones at work while working on tasks that don’t require a lot of effort but not trying to do my homework and spend time with my family. I have vowed to myself that I will work harder on eliminating my multitasking ways, especially in the home. I’m going to prioritize and get my personal things done before I try to do other thing. How nice it will be to watch a movie with my husband without having to do homework at the same time! I’m seeing better quality time ahead, as well as more productive time. If I just buckle down to get things done I’m sure they will be completed faster and at higher quality. I read a blog titled, 6 Reasons Why Mom Shouldn’t Multi-task. It just further proves my complete inability to multitask in the home…
The ultimate conclusion to it all is that it is purely unhealthy and creates additional stress which I believe. Maybe that’s why I’m stressed all the time. I’m putting too much on my plate at one time – and for what? To prove what an amazing and incredibly stressed out multitasker I am?

Now, more than ever I believe that achieving balance is done by focussing on what’s important; prioritizing our time and not trying to be these amazing and frizzy-haired multitaskers. There’s a reason we can’t put eyeliner and mascara on at the same time – it’s dangerous!

So I ask you, what do you really think of multitasking? Do you think it hurts you more than it helps you?

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Striving for Good Enough


The modern woman today typically plays many roles in their lives. Many of us are educated professionals, wives, and mothers…And this is just the main and tip of the iceberg ones. There are so many more and so much more that we, as modern women handle on a daily basis.

I currently work full-time, attend Business school full-time, am a wife, step-mother of 2, and preparing to have my first baby in a matter of weeks. I literally have 8 calendars on my iPhone and 1 that I carry around for my personal appointments and homework. I’m busy and I know that. I also know that I cannot be perfect. In my quest for perfection a frizzy-haired, stressed out, exhausted me finally admitted that it’s not possible – as much as I would like it to be. I cannot be there for everyone all the time. I cannot maintain a meticulous home and cook gourmet meals every night…Heck, I can’t even fold all my clothes all of the time. So why was I trying so hard to be perfect? I’m a Christian. I should know better; I’m human – even as a wife and mother.

I remember the first time I made my mom cry. Gosh, I felt horrrriible. I had done it, made my mother cry. The woman who I thought was unaffected by the world or even having feelings. Moms have feelings? WHAT?! She cried and when I asked her what was wrong she said, “Jenny, you hurt my feelings. I am a human being and I have feelings. I’m not a superhero, I am just a mom trying to do her very best everyday.” Wow. Consider my 6-year old mind blown!

I stopped trying to be perfect because the only person it was hurting was me. There’s a great article that I read recently titled, 5 Reasons Moms Should Stop Trying to be Perfect. The one that struck me that hardest was that recognizing that perfection is a myth. It cannot be our standard of for success in any of our roles.

What I have done is work towards focusing on what is in front of me at the moment. If I’m at work, I’m going to concentrate on rocking work for the day. School, okay put that student hat on (so I can get that graduation cap), then at home I’m a wife and mom and that’s my focus. I can’t be all of them at once nor be perfect at them all the time. IT’S JUST NOT POSSIBLE. What is possible though, is being good enough. My husband will still love me if the laundry isn’t all folded. My boss will still value me if my make-up isn’t perfect for work. So let the make-up routine and laundry take a little hit – I’m going to enjoy my life the fullest everyday regardless of my “imperfection.” I’m just going to get through it all – step by step, day by day.

And let me say, once I stopped trying to be so darn perfect all the time – my happiness increased and my stress significantly decreased. Whew! I’m human. It’s okay!

There’s an amazing blog to read called, The New Perfect. I’m addicted to it because my new perfect is being good enough.

This is just another step towards achieving the balance that I seek.

Tell me about your moment of clarity when you realized striving for perfect is not worth it?

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